First Dance from the Audience Perspective
When going to a wedding I always look forward to watching the newlywed’s first dance. For me, the dancing in general, but mostly the first dance. It’s a traditional symbolic dance that shows people the love and affection you have for each other. It’s a special treat to watch and it is usually fun and sweet.
Typically, I think most guests expect the first dance to be more of a “prom sway” type of dance because the majority of couples don’t dance a choreographed routine. That’s why when couples do bring that to the dance floor, guests are surprised and excited to see something different. I especially love when the bride and groom surprise the guests with a dance mash-up. Those typically are more light-hearted and fun. I see a lot of couples doing a more traditional dance to a slower song and another fun dance, whether it is a mash-up or something else entirely. One of our couples did a waltz for their first dance and after surprised their guests with a Paso Doble. They both dressed up and it looked phenomenal. I know because I saw the pictures and video. It’s as though the wedding guests got the privilege of watching a dance performance.
When many engaged couples think of having to do their first dance at their wedding, I think they have a tendency to put a lot of pressure on themselves to try and impress their guests. If you’ve watched any dancing on television like “Dancing with the Stars” you get it in your head that everyone is a critic and you need to put on a show to impress them to make them happy. But I just wanted to give you a few helpful reminders to ease the pressure.
- This dance is for the two of you. So remember to enjoy yourself and be in the moment.
- Your friends and families are watching. They are people who care about you and want to see you happy. They are not going to be judging you so there doesn’t need to be any pressure. Most people will root you on and be excited for you. Plus, both of you will look your best and dressed up, so you’ll make anything look good.
- Your guests wont be expecting it. As I said before, most guest expect a prom sway. So it’s a nice surprise to them when it is something more.
- Most people don’t know how to dance, so they will more likely be impressed and will love it.
Another thing to expect at your wedding during the first dance is that most your guests attention will be on the two of you. That can be a lot of people and your nerves will probably get to you and the adrenaline will be pumping. Guest usually hoot, holler, and talk during your dance, which can be distracting if you’re not excepting it. Remember to breathe, and be confident in the fact you know what your doing. Most importantly, just enjoy the moment with your significant other. It’s simply beautiful to witness, I can assure you of that.
Article by Jacqui